EFT Intensive FAQ
What is the difference between the Intensive couples/marriage counselling experience and a marriage or couples retreat?
The Intensive is couples counselling or therapy. You, your partner, and a therapist are the only ones involved.
A couples retreat is not counselling. It is a workshop designed to educate couples how to enrich their relationship for themselves.
We are already involved in couples therapy. Will the Intensive benefit us?
If you are seeing an EFT couples therapist an Intensive will augment your couples therapy beautifully.
If you are seeing a therapist who is unfamiliar with EFT, this experience will likely be of benefit, however the match between the Intensive and your ongoing therapy may be a little less congruent. CoupleWorks therapist Carolynne (Caz) Moffat will need your permission to chat with your therapist to acquaint them to the EFT model of couples therapy, to gain their blessing that it complements existing treatment, and for us to co-ordinate any after-care.
Are there any situations where an Intensive is not appropriate?
The Intensive is not recommended in the following circumstances:
- Domestic violence
- Active substance abuse
- Current infidelity
- Active addiction that is either untreated or currently in treatment. That’s too much to tackle at once!
- There is not enough goodwill. (Dislike or contempt prevent a necessary climate of emotional safety).
- You are either not willing (for whatever reason), or it is not a good idea (for any of the above reasons) to look at your own role in your relationship patterns:
EFT is founded on an understanding that both partners’ emotions, reactions and behaviours inadvertently contribute to unhelpful patterns of relating. While this DOES NOT suggest that each partner is responsible for the behaviours and choices of the other, it DOES require both partners to explore and own their own part in the relationship dance.
- Vastly differing goals between partners for the relationship
- You are not able to engage in a follow-up process. While an Intensive is an effective way to achieve a lot, it is rarely enough to stand alone. See follow-up options below
Is there a screening process to determine if the Intensive is suitable for us?
An Intensive is a significant time, emotional and financial commitment so yes, there is a screening process before you and your partner arrive in Newcastle. Please note that the assessment procedure has changed slightly.
- The initial $550 payment ($500+GST) is your reservation fee. The Intensive will be tentatively reserved once CoupleWorks has received this registration fee and the completed registration form. Payment options are included at the bottom of the registration form.
- Once the Intensive is reserved, an assessment package will be emailed to you, and Caz will schedule a 30 min online (Skype or similar) session with each of you.
The assessment questionnaires need to be filled out and returned (either by regular mail to #1, 47 Glebe Rd, The Junction, NSW, 2291, or scanned and returned by email before these individual sessions. Please note that, while all care is taken, the confidentiality of email cannot be guaranteed.)
While these sessions are primarily to prepare for our time together, this is also an evaluation point for confirming that the intensive is appropriate for you.
- If it becomes clear that this experience is not indicated for you, we will discuss that and identify alternate options.
- Caz will communicate (usually by email) with one or both of you to confirm dates and answer any questions during this process.
What if we change our mind before or during the Intensive? Do you have a cancellation and refund policy?
Here is the cancellation/refund policy:
- If you change your mind before our online sessions, you will be refunded the reservation fee minus $100.
- If Caz assesses before or after our online sessions that this is not an appropriate fit for your needs, you will also be refunded the full amount, minus $100. We will discuss alternative options for treatment if this is the case.
- Once we have completed our individual sessions and determined an Intensive is a good fit for you, the registration fee is non-refundable. The remainder of the payment is due two weeks before we meet for our Intensive.
How is the Intensive structured?
Day 1: Conjoint session 4:00-6:30pm. You’ll also be asked to watch a 90 min DVD as homework
Day 2: Conjoint sessions 10:00am-12:30pm & 3:00-5:30pm
Day 3: Either conjoint or individual sessions 10:00-12:30 & conjoint session 3:00-5:30pm
There may be some flexibility on session start and finish times to allow for travel or other plans.
The breaks are an integral part of the structure of the Intensive. Things need time to consolidate. Breaks consist of:
- DVD clips
- written exercises to complete and share
- guided conversation time
- non-guided together time eating, resting, exercising, walking/together time at one of Newcastle's gorgeous beaches
Is there follow-up after an Intensive?
While most couples make a lot of progress during the Intensive, many still require follow-up sessions to consolidate the gains. Preparation includes ensuring we have a follow-up plan in place. For some – it’s as simple as one check-in to make sure you’re good to go. Others have more to do. Up front, you’ll need to choose which of the following is the best fit:
- If you are already working with a therapist, your follow-up will be with them.
- If you are local, our initial follow-up & any further sessions (if needed) may be done with Caz.
- If neither of the above are options, we’ll need to identify a local or online therapist to provide ongoing support if needed. It may even be appropriate to schedule another full or mini intensive to continue our work.
Where is the Intensive held?
The CoupleWorks Newcastle office at:
#1, 47 Glebe Rd,
How much does it cost, and what does that include?
Please refer to the schedule of fees for information on pricing. The fee includes:
- assessment and preparation
- an individual 30 min online session for each partner
- 12.5 hrs (minimum) face-to-face therapy over the 2.5 days. (NB: quite often we spend much more time. An intensive gives us the luxury of not needing to worry about time deadlines. If we’re in the middle of something important at the end of a session’s time – we’ll keep going…)
- 30-60 min follow-up session (in-office) OR a written report sent to your therapist, along with availability for email or phone consultation with your therapist for continuation of care
- A short written summary of what we covered in the intensive, where your relationship is up to, and options for what is next to keep building on the progress made
What is a mini-intensive and when is this indicated?
If you have already completed a full Intensive, you are very welcome to schedule additional sessions, by way of follow-up or ongoing work. This can be achieved through regular one hour, two hour or full day sessions. Please refer to the fees page for pricing information.