...my partner and I have not had sex in years. We don't even kiss. We are more like room-mates. We have lost the spark. When my wife's children are around, I feel like I'm at the bottom of the totem pole – even under the dog. I don't seem to matter at all. I feel lonely and invisible in my relationship. I just found out my wife is having an affair. My husband says he loves me, but he's not in love with me. My partner and I seem to keep having the same fight over and over again. My wife says she needs to feel more emotionally close before she can have sex more often, but I need sex to feel emotionally close. When I bring something up, my husband gets really defensive, or twists it to make it sound like I am the bad guy, and so I end up apologizing. My partner's 'best friend' is a guy. She tells him things that she wouldn't tell me. If I say something, she says I'm being needy and jealous and that they are 'just friends'. My husband just moved out and says I have been impossible for the whole 20 years we were together. This is the first I've heard of it...